God, Ozempic, Chat GPT – this human needs a handrail
If God had a name what would it be?And would you call it to his face?If you were faced with Him in all His gloryWhat would you ask if you had just one question? I’d ask him why I was born in an age of too much choice, that’s for sure. Why wasn’t I born […]
Life dumping you like a wave in north east Ibiza
I really want to write something profound this week. I feel a strong blog might reflect the acute awakenings that only a great family holiday in Ibiza can provoke. I don’t like that first sentence, I’ve been back over it so many times, and I can’t get anywhere with it so I’m leaving it to […]
Art, exposure work, and finding another voice
I still have writer’s block but I can feel I’m becoming unstuck. I started the intro to my book again last night, writing a spin off of Romeo and Juliet. I am going to see a performance with Superman (Tom Holland) playing the man in question next month, so I am sure I will be […]
“It is a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found”
“It is a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found” Donald Winnicott I came across this quote looking at really early drafts of a novel I am working on, about a character I created with chronic self esteem issues. Making it as close to the Hero’s Journey, as I could, I […]
Reassurance – an unquenchable thirst
Ultimately, we are not reassurable – so said my brilliant therapist who, alongside the right medication, helped me recover from OCD. Well, I say recover, I still get anxious, but she helped me come to terms with it – and when I say ‘it,’ I mean this concept of not being able to be certain […]
How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) turned my OCD recovery corner
I received an email from Russ Harris’ mailing list with a link to a free ebook which you may find helpful. Here it is – https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Sk6o4LB86JcXTkLGQMQxwRBgNfZI7_9O/view?pli=1 The link gives you five simple ways to defuse from thoughts, or what is known as cognitive defusion in the trade. Cogntive defusion basically means unsticking from those horrendous […]
Dreams + hurry + worry = OCD
I have been having some really vivid dreams of late. I hope this is because I am sleeping deeply, although I do feel absolutely exhausted at night. Perhaps that is the Easter holidays with four year old twins. The dreams are of course random but they seem to consist of similar feelings. There is control, […]
Perception, shower heads and OCD
Everything is perception – so say many spiritual teachers and writers who I happen to admire. To sum up (and apologies if this sounds a bit basic) change the lens of your circumstances, grab some gratitude for good measure, and have a better life. The great Chuck C of Alcoholics Anonymous wrote a book called […]